A little bit on Patti Stanger

Ever heard of the Bravo hit series, "Millionaire Matchmaker"? The show's main character, Patti Stanger, is one of my modern day role models. She's the sassiest thing on tv right now. And she knows her shit when it comes to dating! Watch the show- I highly recommend it, especially for the personalities that are brought on every episode. Its money I tell ya, MONEY! She's the most quick witted, fearless, & unphased woman and doesn't take NOBODY'S BULLSHIT! Tune in Tuesdays 10/9c.

Dealing with BS

As far as I'm concerned there will always be occurrences in life that we wanna call bullshit on. There will always be something there to bring you down, but the important thing is to recognize that its just a microscopic thing in an infinite time and place called Life. Ultimately, time doesn't wait for bullshit...so know that the emotions tied with it, are all just temporary.

So keep on trucking. Keep on keeping on, and things will turn up.

Not the prettiest girl but...

I'm not the prettiest girl around, let me tell you! I definitely DEFINITELY am not drop dead gorgeous based on modern day standards of beauty- but I have had a lot of winning scenarios when it came to approaching men- and this is because I embraced the fact that I have a confidence in me that shines, a heart of gold (well, semi), and goddamnit, I have charisma! That just comes to tell you...you dont need to be the prettiest girl, because that is waaaaay fucking overrated. It also comes to tell you that people, whether they know it or not, appreciate the beauty thats INSIDE others. So shine away my darlings.

And if they don't see the awesomeness thats inside you, well, clearly they aren't worth it anyway.

Too scared to make the first move?

Can't get the courage? Lack the confidence? Well, suck it up and start KNOWING you can do it.

Here are some pointers.

1) Don't rehearse behind closed doors. In my opinion this is one of the worst things you can do to muddle your mind, and it's also plain tacky. That said, I'm all for non-rehearsal as it forces you to rely solely on 1) creativity and 2) instinct. A bonus later will be patting yourself on the back for how well you did without rehearsing!

2) Don't ever approach someone while you're under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Imagine how silly you would look if you could see yourself being completely NOT YOURSELF and disingenuous. That is tacky as hell and you might as well be morphed into an Ed Hardy douchebag-girl. That being said, bars and clubs are horrible places to meet people (but you already knew that, I'm just confirming it). Avoid hitting on people at these places at all costs.

3) Per #2, you're a classy woman, so stick to that. You wouldn't want you any other way, right? If you disagree, then this blog isn't for you.

4) Think of a moment where you truly and deeply felt high on life (without the use of drugs). Try to summon it back and revive the exact feeling. Then go for it.

More on women and advantage

**Please refer to Feb 1 entry.

I want to elaborate more on the subject of women and advantage. Here's a sentence to sum it up:

Being a woman in the dating world IS advantage.

A guy will rarely reject a woman that approaches them. End of story. It really is as easy as UNDERSTANDING that it is as EASY as this!

Lady Gaga as Metaphor

The thought never crossed my mind that Lady Gaga is "uncomfortable". She exhibits so much confidence, fearlessness, grace...you kind of forget theres a such thing as self-consciousness when you see her in the spotlight. This is exactly what I love about her. She really tells you something about making your own rules, huh? This is what women should think about if/when they approach the dating arena. Be fearless. Calm. Graceful. Bold. These things are tools. You have them in you, they're dormant. Lady Gaga found them- and she works it baaaad.

So, think "Lady Gaga" the next time youre out there. Treat every opportunity like a one time thing- a live performance where you only want to give your best. Trust me, it's not gonna kill ya. In fact, if it doesn't go as planned, at least you've gotten away with important insight. Win/win ladies, win/win...benefits are galore, remember that.

More than enough rejections

Everyone faces rejection. The idea is to prevent it from happening. And as I said, Ladies- YOU have all the advantage. And with that in mind, start thinking about making your own rules. Once you make your own rules, you lessen the chances of facing rejection.

Ok, now all that being said, its SUPER IMPORTANT to find an opportunistic moment to take the plunge. Although there's nothing wrong with just spontaneously going up to a guy and blurting out, "Hi, my name is Natasha. I like your glasses. Wanna get coffee?" I would say you might decrease your victory a bit (but like i said ladies, you have got nothing to lose- if he rejects you, its HIS LOSS.) OPPORTUNITY ladies, opportunity. Be patient. Always be on the prowl, constantly. You'll see endless windows of opportunity if you just keep an eye out. At every moment- when you go the store. When you take walks. When you pick up food. When you're in line waiting for something. Whatever moment- there are windows of opportunity everywhere, you just have to realize that, and seize it by the fucking balls.